Sunday, January 27, 2008

Master Your Anxiety and Stress!

What keeps you awake at night?? Do you toss and turn, struggling to find a way to master your stress and anxiety? If you're like everyone else, then this probably happens to you more than you like. Dr. Jennifer Fee and Dr. Diana Walcutt are The Stress Masters! We are Licensed Psychologists trained in the most effective way to help you! Together, we have 30 years experience and over 10 years of working together as The Stress Masters. Dr. Fee is in Southern California, and Dr. Walcutt is in Baltimore Maryland. Either of us would be delighted to help you personally; just contact us at to learn how!

We can help you conquer your fears in just a few minutes a day, and you can do it by contacting us directly, getting our free newsletter, or finding out more about the CD's we offer. If you feel that you need a coach to help you through the day, we offer phone sessions and we accept credit cards.

But enough about our expertise -- we want to offer you something that you can use RIGHT NOW! Read the post "Breathing Lessons" below.

Breathing Lessons

Do you think you know how to breathe properly? We bet you don't!
Ninety percent of the people we ask don't breathe in a way that can help them master their stress.
It truly is something that you have to learn and practice, practice, practice for over two weeks before you can get it right!


This is called the 4 by 4 breathing exercise because you should practice it for 4 minutes 4
times a day to learn to do it well.
If you are able, do this with your eyes closed, imagining a pleasant place -- This is calming and designed to help you manage stress.
There are two important things to learn about breathing:

1. Learn how to breathe from your diaphragm (from your tummy area) and make that
pattern a part of your daily life.

2. Become skilled at shifting to diaphragmatic breathing whenever you begin to feel stressed.


1. Gently and slowly inhale a normal amount of air through your nose, filling only our lower lungs. Place your hands on your tummy so that you can feel it rising and falling with each breath. Count to 5 slowly as you do it.

2. Exhale slowly through your lips, counting to 5 as you do so.

3. Continue this slow, gentle breathing with a relaxed attitude, concentrating on filling only
your lower lungs.

4. As you breathe, slowly repeat the word “relax” or “calm” or some other word which
means the same to you.

If you have difficulty following the above instructions:

1. Lie down on a rug or your bed, with your legs relaxed and straight, a book on your tummy

and your hands by your side.

2. Let yourself breathe normal, easy breaths. Notice what part of our upper body rises and
fall with each breath. Rest a hand on that spot. If that place is your chest, you are not taking full advantage of your lungs. If the book is moving up and down, then, congratulations, you're doing it right!


Deep breathing is an extension of this normal process. With one hand on your chest and one on your abdomen, take a slow, deep breath, filling your lower lungs, then your upper lungs. When you exhale, let your upper lungs go first (causing your upper hand to drop), then your lower lungs (causing your lower hand to drop).

Reminder: Too many deep breaths, instead of natural breaths in a row, will produce a sense of lightheadedness. This is not harmful; just return to natural breathing.


Natural slow breathing and the deep slow breathing several times each day. Practice natural breathing for a period of at least 4 minutes, 4 times a day. The object is to train yourself to breathe from your diaphragm most of the time.